I often find clients running around in mental circles, pressurising themselves to transform ‘negative’ thinking to ‘positive’ thinking. When they notice negative thoughts, they panic and try to ramp up the positivity quota. Trying to control thinking with thinking results in strain and self-judgment. I suggest my clients leave the thoughts alone. We place our focus on the part
of them that’s aware of the thoughts, and from there we question the validity of the stressful mental patterns. From this place (which is effortlessly
and authentically ‘positive’) it’s easy to see which thoughts aren’t true. Like a radio playing softly in the background, we naturally no longer respond to the transmission when it doesn’t resonate. All thoughts are neutral visitors, it’s our relationship to them that’s key.