A decade ago we were living abroad with our 3 lovely babies. I felt all-consuming love for my boys and hyper-reactive to almost everyone else, and sometimes them. When a shopkeeper told me our 1yr old should be wearing socks with his sandals I felt deeply judged and hurt. That night I had a vivid dream that people were sticking sharp thorns into my skin. I felt a sense of injustice and outrage at how I was being treated. Then I noticed the thorns were growing from within me. There weren’t any villains stabbing me, only people who had the misfortune of rubbing against my thorns.
The next morning I could see where I felt triggered by others could be traced back to a wound within me. When I was able to give these areas of pain my attention and compassion, they no longer hurt myself or others.
Where do you feel pain from what ‘others are doing’ and can you trace the pain back to the root within you?