It’s natural to want to alter our circumstances when we feel challenged and frustrated. But if we aim to create a world where we never get triggered, we end up living a small life.
When you have the urge to make changes, are you responding to your inner wisdom, or are you ducking and diving, trying to shift things around to avoid stepping outside of your comfort zone? If it’s the latter, notice that external triggers (the irritating colleague, the promotion that scares you, the invitation to the party that intimidates you) point to your unresolved emotional wounds.
Once you make peace with those wounds, you'll no longer be unconsciously designing your life around your limited comfort zone. You'll choose to live from a more vibrant and empowered place.